A funeral service follows a well developed pattern, which gives various options to make it more personal. First thing to do is chat with the vicar taking the service who will guide you in making appropriate choices for this particular service.
Normally the service will follow this pattern (the * denote those things that you can choose to personalise):
- Music On Entry *
- Introduction And Opening Prayer
- Hymn *
- Bible Readings *
- Tributes * usually led by someone from the family.
- Sermon by Vicar
- (Optional) Hymn *
- Prayers usually led by the Vicar
- The Lord’s Prayer
- Prayer Of Commendation and Committal
- Hymn *
- Music On Exit *
Here are some resources you might find useful:
Many people appreciate an order of service to guide them through the service and also be a keepsake to hold on to as a memory of the occasion. Most funeral directors will be able to put you in touch with someone who can make them for you. If you’d like to prepare your own, this template may be helpful.
Order of Service Template in MS Word 2007
It’s hard to think of what to say in tribute to someone you’ve loved. It can be really helpful for everyone to include some of the basic facts: where they were born, who their parents were, what job they did. But also, try to include some stories that tell of the person you knew: what they were like, the funny things they did and how much you loved them.
To help with this we’ve prepared a questionnaire that you might find helpful in gathering your thoughts. Perhaps print it off and keep it on the side in the living room and then when anyone remembers anything you can jot it down.